Managing Holiday Loneliness with Innerspace Counseling's IOP & PHP

Navigating Loneliness During the Holidays

The holiday season often conjures images of warmth, togetherness, and joy spent with loved ones. It's a time when twinkling lights adorn homes, and the aroma of delicious meals fills the air.

During the holiday season, amidst the festive decorations and happy songs, people often forget a certain part. This overlooked aspect can actually make this joyful time less happy. During this time, many individuals may experience feelings of loneliness and isolation. They may believe that they are the only ones who are going through these intense emotions.

At Innerspace Counseling, we acknowledge that many people experience loneliness during the holidays, but we rarely openly discuss it. Feeling left out during the holidays can make people feel like they don't belong in their own lives. The pressure to be merry, the constant reminders of the importance of family and togetherness, and the bombardment of seemingly perfect holiday scenes on social media can exacerbate this sense of isolation. We want you to know that you're not alone in feeling this way.

During the holidays, if you feel lonely, there are ways to cope. You can find moments of connection, even when you are alone. In this blog, we will delve into why people may feel lonely during the holiday season, including those grappling with suicidal thoughts, provide practical coping mechanisms to deal with these feelings, and discuss how our Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) and Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP) at Innerspace Counseling can offer valuable support during this challenging time.

If you've ever felt lonely during the holidays, know that you're not the only one who has experienced this. We can help you deal with similar emotions and find comfort and connection during this special time of year.

Understanding Loneliness During the Holidays

Absence of Loved Ones: One of the primary reasons people feel lonely during the holidays is the absence of friends or family. Whether it's due to distance, estrangement, or the loss of a loved one, not being able to celebrate with those who are dear to us can evoke feelings of emptiness and isolation. For instance, Jane, a mother who recently lost her husband, finds it particularly challenging to cope with the holiday season as it reminds her of the cherished traditions they shared.

Social Comparison: The holiday season often magnifies the societal pressure to be merry and surrounded by loved ones. Social media and commercials frequently depict scenes of seemingly perfect holiday gatherings, which can intensify feelings of inadequacy or loneliness in individuals who may not have such picture-perfect celebrations. Take Mark, for instance, who constantly compares his modest holiday plans to his friends' extravagant get-togethers and feels like he falls short.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): Loneliness can also be exacerbated by Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a type of depression that tends to recur during specific seasons, most commonly in the winter months. The reduced daylight hours and gloomy weather associated with this time of year can impact one's mood, contributing to feelings of isolation and suicidal thoughts, especially when one feels particularly alone at the holidays.

Coping Skills for Loneliness

It's important to remember that feeling lonely during the holidays is a common experience, and there are effective coping mechanisms that can help you navigate these emotions. Here are some strategies to consider:

  • Connect Virtually: In our digital age, you can virtually connect with loved ones, even if you can't be physically together. Schedule video calls or online gatherings to share stories, laughter, and holiday traditions. It's a way to bridge the gap and maintain a sense of connection.

  • Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself and acknowledge your feelings without judgment. It's okay to feel lonely at times, and practicing self-compassion can help you manage these emotions.

  • Volunteer: Helping others can be incredibly rewarding and provide a sense of purpose. Consider volunteering at local charities or organizations that need extra support during the holidays.

  • Create New Traditions: If your usual holiday traditions are no longer feasible, consider creating new ones that cater to your current circumstances and bring you joy. Sarah, for example, started a tradition of crafting handmade holiday cards for friends and family, even if they couldn't be together.

  • Seek Professional Help: Loneliness, when persistent and overwhelming, can be a sign of underlying mental health problems like depression, anxiety, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). The holiday season, often a time of reflection and remembrance, can trigger memories of past traumas or grief, intensifying feelings of loneliness. This can be particularly challenging for those who have lost loved ones or are dealing with unresolved grief. Engaging with a psychiatrist to develop a treatment plan, including therapies like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), can be crucial in managing these feelings. Group therapy sessions at Innerspace Counseling can also offer a supportive environment where you can share your experiences and feelings with others who understand what you're going through.

Innerspace Counseling's IOP and PHP Programs

At Innerspace Counseling, we know it's important to help with mental health issues, especially during tough times like holidays. Our Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) and Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP) offer comprehensive treatment options for individuals struggling with mental health disorders, including depression, anxiety, PTSD, and loneliness.

  • IOP is a structured program that provides therapy and support while allowing individuals to maintain their daily routines and responsibilities. It's an excellent option for those who may not require hospitalization but still need intensive mental health care.

  • PHP is an even more intensive program that offers daily therapeutic sessions and support. It's a suitable choice for individuals who require a higher level of care to manage their mental health issues effectively.

Innerspace Counseling offers programs that use proven treatments like DBT and CBT along with medication management if necessary. These programs help people learn how to handle their thoughts and feelings, especially during challenging times like the holidays.


Many people feel lonely during the holidays, but it's important to know that help is there for you. At Innerspace Counseling, we support finding ways to cope and getting professional help when necessary.

You're not alone. Our IOP and PHP programs offer the mental health care and support you need. Remember, your mental well-being is a priority, and we're here to help you every step of the way.